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Today is my grandparents 50th year wedding anniversary.
This is them on their honeymoon, i love them so much and they are the living proof that true love does exist.

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The "D" Word

In case you weren’t aware, my parents are going thru a divorce while I plan my wedding.  Its the most hurtful yet ironic thing in the whole wide world. Its made me think a whole lot, doubt a whole lot, but assure myself of something: I HATE DIVORCE.

You made an OATH unto God.  You promised him you’d be together forever.  Yet you insist on tearing our family apart. Like you haven’t traumatized us enough by leaving us twice.  Second time, you left right after I got engaged… that one hurt me worst.  So now you’re out and about living your merry life trying to find happiness while your home aches and breaks.

Need I say more?

Now onto happy thoughts of sugar plums and fairies…

“Why is it that we are willing to write our own vows but not our own set of rules.”

I do?

Why is it so important to people to get married? And I’m not just asking this because of my dislike of the institution of marriage and how antiquated it is (that’s a post for another day). It just perplexes me that so many people include getting married on the list of things they want to accomplish in their lifetime. Go to college, become a musician/teacher/engineer, and get married.

It seems to me that if we think of marriage as a goal or something that we need to accomplish, then we start seeking relationships solely for that purpose. No longer do we base our judgments of potential partners on things like, say, their personality or sense of humor, but rather on the question, “Are they marriage material?” I don’t think that’s even a conscious thought for most people, but neither do we question the impulse because marriage is such a prevalent (if commonly dysfunctional) part of society.

Don’t mistake this post as a diatribe against people who get married. Marriage works for lots of people and I think that’s a wonderful and beautiful thing. I just don’t understand why people, especially at my age, seem to think that a) marriage is the next step after graduation and b) that they are colossal failures if they don’t meet and marry THE ONE. Relax. Live your life like you always have, and if someone comes along who you want to spend the rest of your life with, go for it. But frankly, actively searching for that person is a waste of time.

Why 90% of the marriages out there fail.

Getting married is the final stage of being with someone. When you get married to someone, you obviously get married with someone you’re ready to spend your whole life with. You’re madly comfortable with them. But when you’re too comfortable with someone, you tend to not do much because there really is no point, since they know you…they know all about you already.

That’s where it all fails at. Slacking in a marriage is one key to a divorce. By getting too comfortable with someone, you don’t seem to mind on how you look or act anymore. It’s not like how it was when you two were dating. When you two would go get ready to go on dates. Whatever. It’s this reason that gets all marriages FUCKED UP in all diff types of places.

You wanna be able to have that flame still lit, why would you let it get put out? Some people have yet to understand this fact. It’s not because you’re losing feelings or the person isn’t meant for you…it’s just because you’re a boring ass bitch/nigga and needs to get off your ass and do somethin to rekindle ya’ll love , nawsayin?!

Is it really just a piece of paper?

The Globe and Mail:

Twenty years ago, 81 per cent of children under 15 were living with parents who were legally married, but by 2006 that proportion had fallen to just below 66 per cent.

In the same time-frame, the proportion of children living with common-law parents tripled to almost 15 per cent from less than five per cent.

• I think that anyone who calls it “just a piece of paper”, isn’t, and never has been married. It certainly is way more than just a piece of paper…as anyone who has had to go through a divorce can tell you. Are society’s mores changing, or is this another indicator of our “throw away” society? If marriage really isn’t important, then why do I hear many unmarrieds refer to their live in partners as “my husband” or “my wife”? Is it important to get married if you have children? What say you?

• I wonder what being married would be like. To me, being married is not just a piece of paper. It’s a promise that they love you so much, they will always be there for you. Even if you’re sick. Even if times are tough. Even if the world seems to fall apart. They will always be there. I like the idea of it. It’s something I dreamed of as a little kid playing dress up. Sometimes I wonder if it will ever happen to me before I die. I guess I better keep wishing and praying. Maybe it will come true. xo kat

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D R E A M E R

"there is always something to keep your fingers crossed about, right? ...especially if you are a big dreamer like moi!"

bri embry

marriage is a joke.

"It always cracks me up when whiney, homophobic idiots hide behind marriage as a defense for them to oppress the gays. “marriage is a sacred institution between a man and a woman.” marriage isn’t sacred. It’s been abused so much that that hookers who specialize in gang bangs feel sorry for it. People get married out of convenience, because they screwed around and had a kid, as an excuse to get a green card, to win a game show, or to become famous. How sacred is that crap? When marriage was created, “till death do us part,” actually meant what it said. Now they should change it to, “till I get sick of you and want a divorce do use part, but not until I drive you utterly insane to the point that you will try to kill me and/or yourself with a shard of glass.” bit of a mouth full, but accurate none the less. Marriage was invented as a way for sexist men to own and control women, and that’s fine with me, but now marriage is just a novelty with no more value than that which individuals give it. I see marriage as utterly meaningless. It’s just a way for weak willed people to stay faithful to each other, or for sluts to screw old lonely men’s’ families out of inheritance. For Christ sake, they have drive through marriages in Vegas, and your priest is an Elvis impersonator! I honestly can’t imagine gays messing it up any worse than it is. Especially when celebrities keep having these 24 hour marriages during drunken stupors. You can’t drive drunk, but it’s ok to get married while you’re hammered. Shouldn’t there be a rule against that? I think the real reason people don’t want gays to get married is that they are afraid the gays will put their straight marriage to shame. Now that would be fricken hilarious."

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Stef: "Kenia I can't wait for you to get married!"
Kenia: "Nahh, no thanks Stef I dont think I want to."
Stef: "Marriage is like bungee jumping everyone should at least do it once in their lifetime."
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